Funeral Guide 2020

APRIL 2020

FUNERAL PLANNING AN ESSENTIAL GUIDE TO

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FIRST THINGS FIRST A GUIDE ON WHAT TO DO IN THE EARLY DAYS

INWHAT is no doubt one of the most stressful periods of your life, there are many decisions and arrangements that need taking and making. Often it is so hard to focus on these in such a difficult time of grief, and drafting in the help of close friends and relatives can relieve some of the burden. Other matters will need to be looked at by the executor or administrator of the estate. To help guide you over this tricky ground, we have provided a checklist of the areas that need to be dealt with first. Documents needed It can be very helpful to have to hand the following information about the deceased, which will make things simpler when dealing with the necessary documents. n National Insurance number n NHS number n Date and place of birth n Date of marriage or civil partnership (if appropriate)

n Any company with which the deceased may have had rental, hire purchase or loan agreements n Pension providers and life insurance companies n Banks and building societies n Mortgage provider n Credit cards and store cards n Landlord or local authority if they rented a property n Any private organisation/ authority providing home help n Utility companies if accounts were in the deceased’s name n Royal Mail, if mail needs redirecting n TV/internet companies with which the deceased had subscriptions n Bereavement Register and Deceased Preference Service to remove the deceased’s name from mailing lists and databases n Clubs, trade unions, associations with seasonal membership for cancellation and refunds n Church/regular place of worship n Social groups to which the deceased belonged n Dentist n Creditors – anyone to whom the deceased owed money n Debtors – anyone who owed the deceased money This does not claim to cover every possible contact, but can be a helpful place to start. More detailed information and

Who to inform You will need to inform people who are close to the deceased and, in many cases, to close down accounts, cancel or change insurance details, subscriptions, agreements, payments or direct debits. The list below should help you to keep track, just cross through the ones that don’t apply. n Relatives and friends n Employer n School contributions office if the deceased was self-employed (to cancel payments) n Child benefit office (at latest within eight weeks) n Local authority, if they paid council tax, had a parking permit, were issued with a Blue Badge for disabled parking, received social services help, attended day care or similar n UK Identity and Passport Service to return and cancel a passport n DVLA to return any driving licence, cancel car tax or return car registration documents/ change ownership n General insurance companies – house, contents, car, travel, medical, etc. If the deceased was the first named on an insurance policy, make contact as early as possible to check that others named are still insured n Solicitor/accountant n Relevant tax office n National Insurance

n Child benefit number n Tax reference number The first tasks n Notify the family doctor n Register the death at the register office n Find the will, as this may

have specific requests about the funeral. The deceased’s solicitor may have a copy if you cannot find the original n If the deceased was receiving benefits or tax credits, advise the offices making the payments. The will If there is a will, contact the executor (if this isn’t you) to enable them to start the process of obtaining probate. If there is no will, decide who will sort out the deceased’s affairs and contact the Probate Registry to apply for letters of administration

advice about how to make contact with some of the agencies mentioned can be found at www.gov.uk/browse/births- deaths-marriages/death Published by Newbury News Ltd, Newspaper House, Faraday Road, Newbury, Berkshire RG14 2AD

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THE ESSENTIAL GUIDE TO FUNERAL PLANNING

WELCOME to the 2020 edition of The Essential Guide to Funeral Planning. This guide has brought together information that we hope will be both interesting and of practical use at a very sensitive time. It offers a handy reference to local businesses whose services you might require and it also aims to

to go about organising and catering for a funeral, selecting a memorial and what to do about flowers. Areas such as clearing the house and donating goods and leaving money to charity are also included, as are the emotional aspects of bereavement. A full contact list of all the organisations and agencies that can help in these difficult days is also included.

offer advice and pointers on where to go for help and how to deal with the difficult issues we will all be faced with sooner or later – the loss of loved ones and how to cope with it. There is information on what to do in the first few days, as well help on how

CONTENTS 2 MJ SLY MONUMENTAL SCULPTOR 3 THE WATERMILL THEATRE 4 A GUIDE ON WHAT TO DO IN THE EARLY DAYS 5 CONTENTS 6 DE VERE, WOKEFIELD ESTATE 7 R.C. SMALLBONE FUNERAL DIRECTORS 8 KNOWING YOUR BENEFITS 9 HOWE & SON FUNERAL DIRECTORS 10 CHOOSE YOUR FUNERAL DEBBIE COLLINS 11 CHURCH OF ENGLAND 12 NEWBURY CANCER CARE RECENCY PARK HOTEL THE HOUSE DOCTOR TONY GAUCI 13 WHO’S WHO AFTER DEATH SHAW HOUSE

19 CHEQUERS HOTEL 20-21 WEST BERKSHIRE FUNERAL DIRECTORS 22 THE MEANING OF FLOWERS BEST BUDS FLORIST SUMO FLOWERS 23 BUTTERCUPS & DAISIES 24 WEST BERKS LEAGUE OF FRIENDS ROYAL BRITISH LEGION CRUSE BEREAVEMENT CARE 25 HELP WITH DEATH ABROAD SPRINGWOOD CEREMONIES 26-27 SHEEPDROVE 28 ASH BROOK FUNERAL DIRECTORS NEWBURY RACECOURSE 29 WHO TO CONTACT 30-31 PROTECT & INVEST 32-33 ARRANGING A FUNERAL 34 MAKING YOUR WILL KEPT ASSETS GOODWILLS LTD 35 HUMPHRIES STONEMASONS 36 HERITAGE CELEBRANT SERVICES 37 MJ SLY 38 A.B. WALKER 39 THIMBLEBY & SHORELAND 40 A.B. WALKER

14 CHOOSING A COFFIN 15 P.G.H. MEMORIALS NEWBURY RECLAIM 16 SPECIAL AUCTION SERVICES

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17 PRECISION DENTAL WILLOW & BLOOMS

LETTER OF CONDOLENCE

18 THE COACH & HORSES BLIZZ GRAPHICS ORGAN DONATION

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KNOWING YOUR BENEFITS IFYOU’RE on a low income and need help to pay for a funeral, you may be able to claim for a Funeral Expenses Payment. Who is eligible? You can get a Funeral Expenses Payment if you get certain benefits or tax credits, you meet the parent of a baby stillborn after 24 weeks of pregnancy, the parent or person responsible for a deceased child who was under 16 (or under 20 and in approved education or training). Bereavement payment You may get Bereavement Allowance if all the following

Pension age, you’re entitled to Child Benefit for at least one child and your late husband, wife or civil partner was their parent, your late husband, wife or civil partner paid National Insurance contributions, or they died as a result of an industrial accident or disease You may also claim WPA if you’re pregnant and your husband has died, or you’re pregnant after fertility treatment and your civil partner has died. Bereavement payment, bereavement allowance and widowed parent’s allowance are available in England, Scotland and Wales only. Tell Us Once Tell Us Once is a service that lets you report a death to most government organisations in one go. When you register the death the registrar will let you know if the service is available in your area, give you the phone number, give you a unique reference number to use the Tell Us Once service online or by phone Details about all the benefits and advice available can be found on www.direct.gov.uk

the rules on your relationship with the deceased and you’re arranging a funeral in the UK, the European Economic Area (EEA) or Switzerland. Benefits and tax credits You must get one or more of the following: Income Support, income-based Jobseeker’s Allowance, income-related Employment and Support Allowance, Pension Credit, Housing Benefit, the disability or severe disability element of Working Tax Credit, Child Tax Credit, Universal Credit. You can still claim Funeral Expenses Payment if you’ve applied for these benefits and you’re waiting to hear about your claim. Relationship with the deceased You must be one of the following: the partner of the deceased when they died, a close relative or close friend of the deceased,

apply: your husband, wife or civil partner died before 6 April 2017, you were 45 or over when your husband, wife or civil partner died, you’re under State Pension age, your late husband, wife or civil partner paid National Insurance contributions, or they died as a result of an industrial accident or disease. You can get Bereavement Allowance for up to 52 weeks from the date your husband, wife or civil partner died. The amount you get depends on the overall level of your husband, wife or civil partner’s National Insurance contributions and your age at the time of their death Widowed parent’s allowance You may get Widowed Parent’s Allowance (WPA) if all the following apply: your husband, wife or civil partner died before April 6, 2017, you’re under State

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CHOOSE YOURFUNERAL THERE are many choices of funeral, however, and no legal requirements for the form a funeral service takes. If you feel strongly about details and style of your own funeral A non-religious funeral If you want a non-religious

Hospitals and crematoria can be very helpful and there is plenty of advice on www.naturaldeath.org. uk which publishes a resource list for DIY burials. Or contact the Cemeteries and Crematorium Department of your local authority for advice and guidance. Burial at sea There are only three places where sea burials are permitted: Newhaven, the Needles Spoil Ground, to the West of the Isle of Wight and off Tynemouth, North Tyneside. When you register the death, you should tell the registrar that you are planning a sea burial and obtain a Coroner’s Out of England Form. The free licence must be obtained from the Marine Management Organisation.

funeral, then the British Humanist Association can put you in touch with a local secular officient. Its website www.humanism.org.uk also has a searchable database of officiants (by postcode) that you might want to use. A woodland burial It is possible to choose a woodland burial site rather than a cemetery or crematorium. A wicker or cardboard coffin, or even a shroud is used and the plot is marked by a tree or plant to preserve the natural surroundings. An independent funeral It is possible to handle all or some aspects of a funeral without involving a funeral director.

service you can leave instructions for your family or friends detailing your wishes or discuss it with them so they are clear what you would like. Traditional funeral The majority of people choose a religious form of ceremony which follows their cultural traditions. The format is clearly laid out in service books at the crematorium or place of worship. There are two parts to the funeral, the service in the place of worship followed by committal at the crematorium or cemetery.

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THE CHURCH OF ENGLAND

You don’t have to be a churchgoer to have your local vicar take the service or to have a funeral service in church. Here for Everyone

From the moment you are in touch with us, throughout the funeral service, and for as long as you need us afterwards, we‛re here for you. The Church of England is in every community, and has been helping people mark the end of life for generations. Each person is unique - in personality and in life experience. A Church of England funeral allows you to give thanks for the unique person you knew and loved. Hope for Everyone Although there is sadness because someone you know and love has died, in every Church of England funeral there will also be a message of hope in life after death. Always for Everyone Wherever you live, wherever the funeral takes place, whatever your link to the person who has died, the Church of England is available for you afterwards. Whether the funeral has happened recently or many years ago. Many think they know what a church funeral involves. We know different, we‛ve been taking services for centuries, and we are still here to do the best for everyone. For more information visit:

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WHO’S WHO AFTER DEATH

Administrator Legal represent- ative of a deceased person who has died without a will or who has died with a will but where there are no executors able or willing to act Asset Holder Anyone who holds money or property on behalf of the deceased eg a bank Beneficiary Someone who will inherit from the will Celebrant Officiates at the funer- al. May be religious e.g. may be a faith leader, a humanist (secular) or civil (may include some reli- gious content) Coroner The independent judicial officer who investigates unnatural and unexplained deaths Counsellor A qualified person who provides emotional therapy to others Embalmer Works for a funeral director to care for bodies Executor appointed by a will to

administer the estate Funeral director/undertaker Takes responsibility for arranging and conducting funerals Lawyer ie solicitor, legal exec- utive and barrister. Qualified professionals specialising in legal matters. Solicitors and legal executives are both able to assist in writing wills and in dealing with the administration of estates of deceased persons. Barristers represent clients in court Medical Examiner A senior inde- pendent doctor who is responsi- ble for checking that the Medical Certificate of Cause of Death, is accurate. Medical Examiner’s Officer Assists Medical Examiner. Pathologist Specialist doctor who diagnoses disease through the examination of body tissues and fluids ersonal representative Probate Registry Issues a Grant

of Representation to the personal representatives of a deceased person, giving them the formal legal authority to deal with the estate Power of Attorney Formal deed by which one person appoints an- other to act on his or her behalf or represent them, usually in respect of conducting financial affairs. The deed ceases to have effect on the appointer’s death Registrar Registrar of Birth and Deaths. Employed by local authorities to receive informa- tion on deaths and issue death certificates Verifier of death Person who confirms that death has occurred. The point at which they do this is usually taken as the official time of death. May be a doctor or in some circumstances may be a nurse or an ambulance paramedic

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CHOOSING A COFFIN

THERE are now many different types of eco-coffins, which can be obtained via your funeral director or in some cases directly from the manufacturer. Examples include: Wicker and woven coffins A popular choice as funerals become less traditional. The recent popularity of willow coffins has provided an essential source of business for a craft that is otherwise threatened by cheap foreign imports. Other materials that can be used are bamboo, pandanus, seagrass, banana leaf and water hyacinth. Cardboard coffins Demand for ‘greener’ and less wasteful funerals has increased dramatically. This is a strong, sturdy but lightweight coffin, which has been developed to meet the needs of those who require an environmentally-friendly and biodegradeable coffin. Cardboard coffins are easily personalised and come in variety of designs and colours. You could even decorate it yourself with old birthday cards and photos. Recycled materials The Sunset coffin (pulp board) is made from board which is 100-per-cent recycled newsprint, using biodegradable pigments and binders. All offcuts go back for further recycling. This gives the coffin its unique tactile feel, but it needs to be seen and touched to be fully appreciated. Because the board is paper- based it can be decorated by family and friends to add that personal touch.

used is the ‘Leafcocoon’. A woollen shroud is safely strapped to a strong wood-framed base, and enfolded in many layers of thick felt, giving the cocoon a smooth outline. The inbuilt base and handles take all the weight and so the whole Leafcocoon is buried. Top cover design options can be a native tree of your choice, the most polular being oak, willow, ash, birch and rowan. ...and for cremated remains Sustainable ARKA Acorn Urn The Acorn Urn is made from recycled paper. It is subtle and simple and fully biodegradable, so the ashes can be buried. Ceramic memorial urns This urn design provides a lasting memorial or an appropriate vessel until such time that you or your family are ready to let them go. Tastefully designed to blend in with your home, the urns can also carry an inscription of your choice.

Woollen and cotton coffins These are made in Yorkshire from a combination of pure new Dorest Horn sheep wool and organic cottons, over a cardboard frame, hemmed with blanket stitch. They are fully biodegradable and offer a soft and gentle alternative to the more traditional materials available. Sustainable wooden coffins Coffins made out of sustainably- sourced timber are also accepted, especially if finished in bees wax or natural oils. These should be available from your local funeral director. Jute coffins and jute shrouds These are made by mixing plant fibres with natural starch and then compressing it to create a strong, Paste on photographs, colourful tissue paper, petals, card models, a collection of Valentine cards, poetry... the only restriction is your imagination. Shrouds Bellacouche produces felt shrouds and the most commonly biodegradable coffin. Decorate your coffin Ideas for decoration...

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A SENSITIVE letter following a bereavement can bring great solace. The most difficult letters to write are those when the death involves a younger person or a sudden death such as a car accident or suicide. Younger people tend to add their thoughts about the deceased onto social networking sites, but a condolence letter or card is something which can be re-read many times and treasured. Start off to say how sorry you are to hear of the death of the person and mention then by name. Say that you are thinking of them and the family at this difficult time. Depending on how well you knew them, it is good to note any special qualities that the person may have had. It is nice to include a good or happy memory you have of that person that the person you are writing to can add to their own treasured memories and have a smile about. Offer help if practical - to drop a meal around, do some shopping or help with arrangements for the funeral - but not the ‘ring me if I can help’ type of offer. Beware of adding poems or inspirational quotes to your letter. Only send something if you know the person well and you feel the words will offer genuine comfort. LETTER OF CONDOLENCE

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FROM May 20, 2020, all adults in England will be considered an organ donor when they die unless they had recorded a decision not to donate or are in one of the excluded groups. Even if the deceased did not opt out before they die, their family would always be involved before donation takes place. So it is really important that people choose whether they want to be a donor and discuss what they want to happen with their family. That means the deceased’s decision is clear and the family can have peace of mind know that the decision is being honoured. Your faith and beliefs will also always be taken into consideration before organ donation goes ahead. Funeral arrangements will not be affected by organ donation. ORGAN DONATION

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A FUNERAL TO FIT YOUR BUDGET

WEST Berkshire Funeral Directors are celebrating 10 years as an Independent Funeral Director. Having been a Funeral Director for more than 41 years, Peter Coxdecided to start his own business based at Clarendon House in London Road Newbury 10 years ago. The main intention was to provide families with complete freedom of choice, giving them a service how they want it, reflecting the character for their loved one and keeping within their budget. Keeping costs down is paramount, but not at the cost of losing quality of service, this is where West Berkshire Funeral Directors come in to their own, being focused on care, freedom of choice & quality of service before profit.

For those who want to attend and have a service, West Berkshire Funeral Directors can provide a very simple but dignified service at the crematorium, without all the frills and expense, but still providing a quality service they can remember at low cost. Of course, they can provide all the traditional aspects too, hearse, limousines, horse-drawn hearse or even specialist vehicles for those special requests. It is their aim to provide families with the service they require, without the restrictions often imposed by the larger corporate funeral directors. They have their own hearse andmatching limousine, a classic Daimler hearse, vintage hand bier and they have just acquired a classic Rolls Royce hearse, which will be available soon.

They can provide a very simple direct cremation with no service, this is often chosen when people do not want a formal funeral, but would rather have the cremation carried out, possibly followed by a Memorial Service at a later date, or just a family gathering to celebrate the life.

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THE SYMBOLIC MEANING OF FUNERAL FLOWERS

Lilies The lily is the flower most commonly associated with funeral services as they symbolise the innocence that has been restored to the soul of the departed. The white lily expresses majesty and purity, whereas white stargazer lilies specifically symbolise sympathy.

Gladioli Gladioli have a tall stem composed of multiple flowers that can measure up to four feet tall. They are typically used in fan sprays, which are classic and elegant arrangements. The gladiolus embodies strength of character, sincerity, and moral integrity. They are available in a range of colours, including white, pink, red, purple, yellow, orange, salmon, and green.

THE type of flowers you choose can express specific sentiments. The traditional language of flowers provides a way to convey your feelings and send a meaningful message.The gift of a plant is often an ideal choice, as they provide a long-lasting tribute to the loved one lost, as well as a constant reminder of the friendship and affection you wish to support the bereaved through the grieving process.

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Carnations Long-lasting and fragrant, carnations are a popular choice for sympathy arrangements. The red carnation evokes admiration while a pink carnation stands for remembrance. White carnations stand for pure love and innocence.

Chrysanthemums Chrysanthemums are frequently included in arrangements for funeral services. In some European countries, such as France, Italy, Spain, Poland, Hungary and Croatia, chrysanthemums are symbolic of death and are only used for funerals or on graves. In China, Japan and Korea, white chrysanthemums are symbolic of lamentation and grief.

Roses As one of the most recognisable flowers, roses can be a beautiful part of an arrangement of funeral flowers. White roses evoke reverence, humility, innocence, and youthfulness. Red roses convey respect, love, and courage. Pink roses signify love, grace, appreciation and gentility. Dark crimson roses denote grief and sorrow. Yellow roses are given by friends of the deceased to symbolise their strong ties. When you include a single rose in a bouquet it expresses enduring love for the deceased.

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of Friend’s work in your local hospital, providing much needed equipment to benefit local people. Much of the equipment they purchase through their continual fundraising efforts enables patients to be treated at the local hospital, avoiding stressful and time-consuming trips to other hospitals further away. Last year the league purchased nearly £150,000 of diagnostic and testing devices and this year alone they have already donated £25,000. They can only do this through the continuing generous support of the local community and ask you to consider them when preparing your will and thank you for your bequests.

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HELP WITH DEATHABROAD WHEN someone dies abroad, the death may seem more distressing because of the complications, but you can get help from the British authorities in the UK and overseas.

Funeral costs If the deceased’s funeral costs are covered by travel insurance, the insurance company will be able to make the necessary arrangements. If not, you’ll have to pay all costs including hospital bills and repatriation of the body and possessions. Arranging the funeral in the UK Take an authenticated translation of the death certificate to the register office and the registrar will issue a ‘certificate of no liability to register’. This certificate is usually given to the funeral director to enable the funeral to go ahead. The certificate is not required if a coroner has issued a Certificate for Cremation or an Order for Burial. If you wish to have the body cremated you will need the coroner’s certificate before you start planning the funeral. Having the funeral abroad You can arrange for the burial or cremation in the country where the person died. The British Consulate can give you advice about this. Deaths in disasters abroad The Foreign and Commonwealth Office for help. They will provide support and advice on this and all other related matters. The main enquiry number is 020 7008 1500. They are open 24 hours a day.

If the person dies while you’re in the UK If the death has been reported to the British Consulate in the country where the person died, they will ask the UK police to inform the next of kin. Consular staff in London will keep in touch with the family and the consulate abroad until burial or cremation overseas or until the deceased has been brought back to the UK. If the person dies while you’re abroad with them The British Consul will support you. If the person died while on a package holiday, the tour operator will be able to help. Registering the death where the person died You will need to register the death according to local regulations and get a death certificate. You can often register the death at the British Consulate. It’s not compulsory, but if you do, you can buy a UK-style death certificate, and the record will be sent to the General Register Office within 12 months. If the deceased was a serving member of the British armed forces, their commanding officer can request the registration. If the body is to be brought back to England or Wales, this must be reported to the coroner for the district where the funeral will take place. If the body is to be cremated, you will need a coroner’s Certificate for Cremation. Documents you’ll need to register the death When registering the death, you should take information about yourself and the deceased: n Full name and date of birth n Passport number and where and when it was issued n Details of the next of kin Bringing the body home If you wish to bring the body back to the UK, British Consular staff will put you in touch with an international funeral director. The body will need to be embalmed and placed in a zinc-lined coffin before it can be removed from the country. Documents you will need Before you can bring the body home, you’ll need: n A certified English translation of the foreign death certificate n Authorisation to remove the deceased’s body from the country n A certificate of embalming The British Consul can help to arrange the above documentation.

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NATURAL BURIAL WOOD AT SHEEPDROVE

SHEEPDROVE’S Natural Burial Wood is situated at the heart of their organic farm within a designated Area of Outstanding Natural Beauty. The view from the burial ground is spectacular; sweeping hills, miles of byways, woodlands, wildflower meadows and hedges make up the scenery. Its elevated position showcases the most glorious sunrises and sunsets. It is a unique and inspiring spot, perfect for a woodland with such an important role. It complements Sheepdrove’s commitment to sustainability and their continual efforts to be environmentally responsible. The burial ground embraces the ethos of returning all that we are to the soil to be used again for the benefit of nature, while leaving no negative impact on the environment. Set in a four-acre triangular deciduous woodland, it’s filled with native species of trees such as beech, ash, cherry and sycamore. The woodland was planted more than 20 years ago to increase the amount of woodland planting on the farm and to create habitats for birds and wildlife, increasing the biodiversity at Sheepdrove. The change of use from woodland to a burial ground took more than two years to complete with archaeological surveys to complete. Both Roman and neolithic remains were found in 2016, which now means that it is

buried. Wool, cotton, wicker and cardboard are all acceptable. coffins or shrouds can be used. Sheepdrove are members of The Association of Natural Burial Grounds (ANBG), which has been established by The Natural Death Centre. This means they comply with the ANBG Code of Conduct aimed at ensuring the highest professional and environmental standards, which means they provide their customers with the assurance of best practice. Choosing the final resting place that is right for family or indeed yourself is naturally, very important. If you are thinking of a natural buriald, Sheepdrove welcome you to make an appointment to see for yourself exactly what it looks and feels like. They provide a sensitive and highly personal service and are happy to answer as many questions as you might have. They are able to advise and co-ordinate as much, or as little, as you need and can also put you in touch with other relevant professionals.

more than just a woodland or burial ground, it is also a site of archaeological significance. Peter and Juliet Kindersley wanted to continue their commitment to sustainability and environmental responsibility by offering the ability to be buried in an environmentally-friendly way. A natural burial offers a sustainable alternative to other burial options currently available. It produces less waste, reduces carbon footprint and nourishes the local ecosystem. Family and friends can enjoy peaceful reflection in the native woodland and surrounding meadows, which become a lasting tribute to those buried. The natural burial ground is open all year with 24/7 access. The woodland offers sheltered tree-lined paths and is itself sheltered by mature hedgerows. Under the tree canopy there is an abundance of native wildflowers, providing habitats for a variety of wildlife. The use of biodegradable coffins and control over the use of chemicals going into the ground prevents harm to wildlife and soil quality. Only 100 per cent bio-degradable materials are allowed to be

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WHO TO CONTACT FORHELP YOUR A TO Z OF USEFUL ADDRESSES AND TELEPHONE NUMBERS

Acorn Ridge, Newbury RG20 0JN T (01635) 255441 E web@acornridge.co.uk W www.acornridge.co.uk Age UK, T 0800 678 1602; Berkshire: T (0118) 959 4242 Alzheimer’s Society, West Berkshire, T 0118 959 6482 E berkshire@alzheimers.org.uk W www.alzheimers.org.uk Bereavement Register T 020 7089 6403; automated phone line T 0800 082 1230 E help@thebereavementregister.org.uk W www.thebereavementregister.org.uk Bereavement Advice Centre T 0800 634 9494 W www.bereavementadvice.org British Heart Foundation T 0300 330 3311 W www.bhf.org.uk British Humanist Association T (020) 7324 3060 E info@humanism.org.uk W www.humanism.org.uk Care Quality Commission T 03000 616161 W www.cqc.org.uk Cats Protection T 03000 12 12 12 Andover T 0345 2601501 Basingstoke T (01256) 584 544 Newbury T(01635) 200 111 E newbury@cats.org.uk W www.cats.org.uk Cemeteries and crematoria: Basingstoke Crematorium T (01256) 398 783 Reading Crematorium T (0118) 937 2200 West Berkshire Crematorium T (01635) 872 577 E info@westberkshirecrematorium.co.uk W www.westberkshirecrematorium.co.uk Child Death Helpline T 0800 282 986 W www.childdeathhelpline.org Cinnamon Trust, E info@ageuk.org.uk W www.ageuk.org.uk

T tel: (01736) 757 900 W www.cinnamon.org.uk Citizens Advice W www.advice.org.uk

Wantage Road, Great Shefford, Berks RG17 7DQ; T (01488) 638584 W www.nawt.org.uk/centres/berkshire National Association of Funeral Directors T 0121 711 1343 (Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm) W www.nafd.org.uk Parkinson’s Disease Society T 0808 800 0303 W www.parkinsons. org.uk; Newbury branch E newburyparkinsons@gmail.com Probate & Inheritance Tax T 0300 123 1072 (Mon to Fri 9am to 5pm) Registrar of deaths Andover and Basingstoke T 0300 555 1392 Reading T (0118) 937 3533 West Berkshire Register Office, opening hours vary, T (01635) 279233 Samaritans T tel free: 116 123 W www.samaritans.org Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Society T (020) 7436 5881 E helpline@sands.org W www.sands.org Stroke Association, helpline, T 0303 3033 100 W www.stroke.org.uk WAY: Widowed Young offers support and friendship for the bereaved whose partners have died aged under 50 W www.widowedandyoung.org.uk Winston’s Wish offers practical support and guidance to families, professionals and anyone concerned about a grieving child, helping them to rebuild their lives after the death of a parent or sibling T 08088 020021 W www.winstonswish. org.uk

Newbury Citizens Advice, 2nd Floor, Broadway House, 4-8 The Broadway, Northbrook Street, Newbury, Berkshire, RG14 1BA W www.citizensadvicewestberkshire.org.uk T 0300 222 5941 Basingtoke Citizens Advice, 19/20 Westminster House, The Discovery Centre, Potters Walk, Basingstoke, Hants, RG21 7LS; Tadley Citizens Advice Bureau, Franklin Avenue, Tadley, Hants RG26 4ET W www.basingstokeandtadleycab.org.uk T 03444 111 306 CRUSE – Bereavement Care, T 0844 477 9400; BasingstokeT (01256) 335569 Andover and District T (01264) 336006; Swindon T (01793) 619 933 Oxford T 01865) 245398, E oxfordshire@cruse.org.uk Deceased Preference Service, T 0800 068 44 33 W www.deceasedpreferenceservice.co.uk W www.cruse.org.uk; West Berkshire branch T (01635) 523573;

Hospice Information T (020) 7520 8200 W www.hospiceuk.org Lullaby Trust T 0808 802 6868

W www.lullabytrust.org.uk Macmillan Cancer Support T 0808 808 00 00

W www.macmillan.org.uk Marie Curie Cancer Care T 0800 090 2309 (Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm) W www.mariecurie.org.uk Motor Neurone Disease Association T 0808 802 6262 W www.mndassociation.org National Animal Welfare Trust, Berkshire Trindledown Farm,

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