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AN ESSENTIAL GUIDE TO Wedding AUTUMN2021 PLANNING

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AN ESSENTIAL GUIDE TO WEDDING PLANNING

W elcome to The Essential Guide to Wedding Planning. There is so much to think about, from the dress to the venue, transport, photographer, food, entertainment, invitations and, of course, who to invite. It should be a fun time and with careful

planning and preparation shouldn’t be too stressful. This essential guide highlights local businesses to make your planning easier and has a few ideas on unusual ways of getting to the venue, cakes, fashion, honeymoon destinations and advice on what you have to do by law in order to get married. There is also a handy checklist of what you need to do and when.

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Esseborne Manor Hotel

Suits

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Your Church Wedding

Let them entertain you

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Newbury Town Council

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Grahams Hog Roast Templars Barn

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Best Buds Past Time Sumo flowers

Wedding planning checklist

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Springwood ceremonies Chequers Hotel

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25 Regency Hotel 26&27 Bride and groom fashion ideas 28 Mrs B’s Kitchen & Café 29 Have your cake and eat it 30 Wedding marquees 31 Flower displays 32 Pine & Oak furniture 33 Getting to the church 34 Donnington Valley 35 Furze Bush Inn 36&37 Honeymoon destinations 38 The Old Boot, Stanford Dingley 39 Parkway 40 DJ Kit

Wasing Park Pageant

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Legal bits – what you need to know

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11 Combe Manor Hungerford Town & Manor 12&13 Deanwood Park Golf Club 14

The origin of wedding traditions

The Ibex

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Planning your wedding stationery The Clothes Shop Pangbourne Cheese Shop

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Celebration Carriages Willow & Blooms Blades Bridal

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Wedding Venue

Hold your wedding and exchange vows under the beautiful Victorian hammerbeam ceiling in our historic Council Chamber in the Town Hall with up to 55 guests. Also available for receptions, with the option of using a caterer of your choice. Chair covers and sashes in a variety of colours available for hire. Take your wedding photos in our beautiful oak panelled chamber and stunning oak staircase to the Civic Entrance. Newbury.gov.uk | 01635 35486 or 07951268883 Kym.heasman@newbury.gov.uk

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Packages from £175 (We can also provide the dough and toppings,

New Por table Pizza Oven

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An opportunity for you to have fun making and cooking your own pizzas at home with family and friends. Supplied with all necessary equipment and enough firewood to cook for 2-3 hours.

Family run business established over 20 years

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DIY hog roast machines available for hire, supplied with gas and meat of your choice. Hog Roast party – ready cooked half and whole pigs, complete with bread rolls and stuffing delivered to your event for you to enjoy.

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TEMPLARS

Templars Barn is an idyllic countryside venue with romance in the air, a lovely setting for your magical day. Templars Weddings have been holding weddings on the Parry family farm near Hungerford for the last 15 years. Situated in rural Berkshire, with breathtaking views across rolling countryside, this magnificent historic barn is the perfect venue for a rustic yet elegant special occasion. There is no set party plan and we really get to know the families that hire our beautiful barn, allowing you to put your own stamp on things by creatively decorating and customising every detail to your wishes.

We would be delighted to show you around, please do get in touch if you would like to arrange a viewing or require any more Information.

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Planning your wedding can be a daunting prospect. This 12-month Wedding plan checklist should give you somewhere to start.

Four-Five Months Before the Wedding o Contact your florist and finalise your arrangements o Order wedding stationery (invitations, o Arrange accommodation for out of town guests (book blocks of hotel rooms) o Choose your wedding cake o Decide on your wedding decorations including favours envelopes, order of service etc.) o Book youwedding transport

One Month Before the Wedding

welve Months or More Before the Wedding etermine the style and theme of your wedding whether this be formal, semi-formal, informal o Make a list of what is important to you and this will help determine your budget o Decide on a wedding date and start looking for wedding venues o Find a wedding officiant (the person whowill marry you) and apply for the necessary licences Nine-Eleven Months Before the Wedding o Bridal gown o Photographer o Choose live band, disco or entertainers o Caterer o Hair and beauty stylist o Bridesmaid dresses o Florist o Wedding cake o Venue decor o Wedding transport o Shoes and accessories If your the supplier is available on your chosen date book them IMMEDIATELY! o Compile a preliminary guest list o Visit wedding fairs/look through bridal magazines and search the internet to gain ideas and inspiration o Finalise your wedding colours, theme and style o Choose your bridesmaids, groomsmen, ushers, flower girl and ring bearer T o D Six-Eight Months Before the Wedding o Start planning ceremony and receptionmusic choices o Start looking at invitation designs o If you haven’t already, purchase your wedding gown, veil and accessories o Finalise and order attire for your attendants o Sign up for your gift registry/ hon eymoon donation o Choose your wedding rings o Look at honeymoon options

o Meet with your photographer o Start working on your seating plan o Decide and confirmyour wedding vows and ensure your officiant has been sent copies o Confirmall final payment amounts with your suppliers as well as dates, times etc. o Collect marriage licence o ConfirmHoneymoon reservations o Arrange for a final wedding dress fitting Two Weeks Before the Wedding o Finalise seating chart o Confirmdelivery time and locations with florist o Contact any guests you have not received an acceptance from One Week Before the Wedding o Collect wedding gown, bridesmaids’ dresses and accessories o Give final guest numbers to venue/ receptions/caterer o Make sure themen have their final suit fitting o Reconfirmeverything with suppliers one last time One Day Before o Attend rehearsal (if you are having one) o Have amanicure/pedicure o Confirmwedding day transportation o Reconfirmhair andmake appointments for the wedding day o Confirmall duties requiredwith the wedding party o Try to get an early night and relax! Your Wedding Day o Try to eat breakfast, even if you think you aren’t hungry o Begin dressing at least two hours before ceremony is scheduled to begin o Relax andmost importantly enjoy your big day

Three Months Before The Wedding o Order your wedding cake o Finalise your guest list o Meet with your wedding officiant to discuss details of the ceremony o Choose gifts for your attendants and parents o Arrange for a suit fitting for the Groom andmalemembers of the wedding party o Reconfirmhoneymoon arrangements o Start writing your wedding vows, if you are doing themyourself o Send out your invitations o Meet with suppliers to finalise arrangements o Schedule a hair andmakeup trial with a consultant o Start making/buying wedding favours o Finalisemusic selections for the ceremony and reception If changing your name, complete the proper documents o Meet with officiant to finalise ceremony details o Reserve room for wedding night if not already done Two Months Before The Wedding

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Legal bits: What you need to know You can get married or form a civil partnership in the UK if you’re 16 or over, free to marry or form a civil partnership

days before the ceremony. Authorised officials, including ministers and priests of other religions, can register marriages. Weddings and civil partnership ceremonies Vows You must exchange some formal wording, but you don’t need to exchange vows for a civil partnership. Civil ceremonies can include readings, songs or music, but must not include anything that’s religious, eg hymns or readings from the Bible. You’ll need to have at least two witnesses at the ceremony. Signing the register You, your partner and your two witnesses must sign the marriage register or civil partnership document. Cost of registering a marriage or civil partnership You have to pay a fee to register a UK marriage or civil partnership – different fees may apply abroad. Ask the registrar or religious minister for details. There is also a charge for the marriage or civil partnership certificate. You may need a copy to prove your marital status in the future. Venues You can have a civil ceremony or civil partnership at a register office or any venue approved by the local council. The Home Office has a list of all approved civil marriage and civil partnership venues. It is also now legal to get married outside. www.gov.uk/marriages-civil- partnerships

(single, divorced or widowed) or not closely related. You need permission from your parents or guardians if you’re under 18 in England, Wales and Northern Ireland. There are usually two steps: 1 Give notice at your local register office. 2 Have a religious ceremony or civil ceremony at least 28 days after giving notice and within 12 months. Getting married or forming a civil partnership abroad Find out which documents you may need to get from the UK authorities. Your overseas marriage or civil partnership will be recognised in the UK if you follow the correct process according to local law. Giving notice at your local register office For most marriages or civil partnerships you must give at least 28 full days’ notice with details of where you intend to get married or form a civil partnership. You can only give notice at a register office if you have lived in the registration district for at least the past seven days. married or in a civil partnership before, you need to take either a decree absolute or final order or the death certificate of your former partner. Religious ceremonies A religious wedding can take place at a church, chapel If you’ve been divorced or widowed or if you’ve been

or other registered religious building. Religious blessing can take place after a civil ceremony in a register office. You can’t get married in an Anglican Church as a same sex couple. You can get married in other religious buildings if the religious organisation allows the marriage of same sex couples to take place and the premises has been registered for the marriage of same sex couples. Anglican marriages You don’t usually need to give notice with the register office if you’re getting married in an Anglican church and both you and your partner are British citizens, from the European Economic Area or Switzerland. Officials performing Anglican marriages will register your marriage. Jewish and Quaker marriages You need to give notice with the register office at least 28 days before the ceremony. Officials performing Jewish or Quaker marriages will register marriages. Marriages in all other religions You need to give notice with the register office at least 28

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were so determined to make it our venue. After meeting John and his team, we were given a very competitive price for an amazing setting. Once we arrived at the venue both myself and my wife were absolutely blown away with the decorations by Lorna and her team from the wedding package company and venue. The food was absolutely fantastic and a great team served our guests every need. All in all, it was our perfect day in every way. Highly recommended in a heartbeat. Wayne & Jo We used Deanwood Park Golf Course as our wedding reception venue and we are so pleased we did! We were completely blown away with how the room was transformed and the grounds make for beautiful photos! Nothing was too much trouble abd the food was great and such good value! We had the most relaxed and perfect wedding day and we cannot thank John and his team enough for that! We just wish we could do it all again!”

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Despite all the disruptions over the last 18 months, Deanwood is able to cater for weddings put together at relatively short notice. Prices for a full wedding reception for 50, and evening party, start from as little as £2,000. Discuss your plans over a drink with General Manager John Bowness or Bar & Events Manager Ali Tait.

Suite can cater for numbers in excess of 100 or can be divided into smaller sections for more intimate events. There is an outside space and the golf course has some beautiful scenery for photography. The club works closely with The Wedding Package Company (www.the-wedding-package- company ) which provides the extra items like chair covers, sweet carts, table decorations and disco and dancefloor, etc.

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Wedding traditions THE ESSENTIAL GUIDE TO WEDDING PLANNING M any of our wedding traditions go back centuries, others are

imports from other countries that took our fancy and took hold. We just accept them — but what do they actually mean? Where do you stand?: Brides have stood on the left of the groom since Anglo-Saxon times, so that the groom had his right arm free to draw his sword and protect his beloved from dangers. The Best Man: Also from Anglo Saxon times, the groom’s strongest friend would be by his side to protect the couple from any threats. Throwing rice/confetti: This goes back to pagan weddings when it was seen as a symbol of fertility. The Victorians started using shredded paper which evolved into the confetti we know today. Bridesmaids: In Roman times brides would have 10 bridesmaids. They would all wear the same dress as the bride and act as a decoy to confuse any evil spirits trying to hurt her. Wedding favours: In the 16th century the rich would hand out sugar cubes to thank their guests for coming. Later five sugar-coated almonds were given to represent health, wealth, happiness, fertility and a long life. With this ring: Wedding rings date back to Roman times and were worn to show your marital status. They symbolise the

value of the relationship and the unbroken circle shows eternal commitment. Third finger, left hand: The romantic ancient Greeks believed there was a vein that ran from this finger directly to the heart. Pulling a veil over it: In Roman times a veil was thought to ward-off evil spirits and conceal the bride’s beauty. It also symbolises youth and innocence. During times of arranged marriages, the veil would cover the bride’s face and only be revealed to a delighted (or disappointed) groom once the ceremony was over. Throwing the bouquet: This began in France in the 14th century. Guests would tear strips from the bride’s dress to bring them luck. This grew into the groom throwing the bride’s garter into the crowd to keep them away. Later the practice of throwing the bouquet took over and it’s said that whoever catches the bouquet will be the next bride. The first dance: As the guests of honour, the bride and groom take to the floor first and dance to a song of their choice.

Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue...: A Victorian rhyme. Wearing a family heirloom represents the bride’s link to her family. Something new symbolises a fresh start and something borrowed means that you have to return the item and thus stay in touch with friends and family. Blue was said to mean purity and symbolises faithfulness and loyalty. …and a silver sixpence in your shoe: This lesser known last line means that a silver sixpence in your shoe would ensure future wealth. Saying it with flowers: Different types of flowers – and even different colours, all have meanings. This language of flowers is known as floriography chosen for their meanings, for example carnations symbolise pride and beauty and daisies innocence and purity. Roses, always popular for weddings, signify love. A red rose says “I love you” while the white rose means chastity and innocence. and was very popular in Victorian days. Flowers in a bridal bouquet are often

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The Ibex Inn is a cosy 18th century Gastro pub that is absolutely oozing with character, this beautiful and historic public house is situated in the tranquil countryside of Chaddleworth village, a convenient 12-minute drive from Newbury. With 2 luxurious en-suite guest rooms in our B&B and a 1 bedroom house also available opposite the pub, beautiful countryside surroundings and availability throughout the year, you will have unforgettable memories of your special day.

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backgrounds and dark ink on dark backgrounds. Be wary of hard-to-read fonts. Choose the words wisely: Learn the rules to wording your invitation. Traditionally, whoever is hosting is listed first. Don’t crowd the card: List only the key points: ceremony time and location, the hosts, the couple’s names and RSVP information. Leave things like directions to your wedding

the-line papers, colour ink, formal printing techniques and custom design will add to your costs – so research your options. Triple-check the proof: You’d be surprised at the things you may miss. Read the proof word for word from right to left so you don’t accidentally gloss over any mistakes. Order extra: Order enough invitations for your guest list, plus 25 extra in case you want to put some for keepsakes or have a B-list.

Define your wedding style: Browse wedding invitation photos and websites to gather inspiration. Know your colours: Ivory, cream or white card stock paired with a black or gold font is the classic choice, but really anything goes. Play with the shape and size: Look at circular, scalloped and square invitations, but veering away from the standard envelope size can increase the postage. Make sure they’re legible: Avoid light ink on light

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plenty of bang for their buck, they can do the rounds mid- meal to entertain your diners. PAPARAZZI Hire faux-paparazzi to show up at your wedding. Providing laughs and photographic gems for your wedding album. FLASH MOBS There’s no better way to make your friends and families’ jaws hit the floor. anything is possible. Mobile petting zoos are available, or maybe reptiles is your thing – snakes and crocs mingling with the guests could make for some interesting photos. DANCE OFF There comes a time when things can only be solved with a good old-fashioned dance off. You know the rules: men on one side, ladies on the other, and anything goes. Let the DJ decide the prizes for best and worst moves. PHOTO SCAVENGER HUNT Not just one for the children, create a photo scavenger hunt for your guests to complete throughout the course of the day. From snapping a picture of planting a kiss on the groom’s cheek to selfies with the catering staff. PETTING ZOO In the world of unusual wedding entertainment,

there is another way to have a star-studded wedding: hire a lookalike. Great photo opportunities. SERENADING BAND The best serenading bands are the ones who make up songs on the spot. Give them a couple of facts, and they’ll make up a song within seconds. SINGING WAITERS A fun way to liven up your dinner and, to make sure you get a reaction, keep it a secret from your guests until they suddenly burst into song. TAKEAWAY VAN As the party gets into full swing there is no more welcome a sight than a takeaway van. Hiring a burger or fish ‘n’ chips van for when you’re the other side of midnight will go down a treat. PHOTO BOOTH Silly hats and wigs and a host of other disguises, everyone from granny to the over-excited youngsters can get in on the act. And they definitely create a display for the album. Whatever you do, have fun. 19

SURPRISE FIRST DANCE Learn a secret dance routine with your partner to perform at your reception.

CARICATURES Give your guests a

personalised favour in the form of a caricature. Or you can hire a silhouette artist to create portraits of you and your guests during the celebrations. RSVP A FLOORFILLER Simple but oh-so-effective, ask guests to jot down their must-have party song on their RSVP note, and hey presto, a ready-made playlist is yours.

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His ‘n’ Hers: a few fashion tips THE ESSENTIAL GUIDE TO WEDDING PLANNING

The experience of shopping for a wedding gown can be stressful and highly emotional. This is the most important dress of your life, so here are some helpful hints. Don’t build the wedding around the dress... Is it a country church wedding with 50 guests? Or a more largescale affair in the heart of the city? Start with the kind of wedding it will be and work backwards to the dress. The dress will determine what to do with your hair and how much jewellery you need. Large earrings can dominate, and a hairstyle can be subtly improved with delicate adornments. Be careful of necklines and be mindful of how small, well- made jewellery can have a better effect. Less is more with accessories

Be realistic about what you can afford If you have a small budget then you can’t expect a top designer dress, unless of course, you get lucky on eBay or the charity shops. Auctions are another good place, especially for vintage or retro dresses. But there are many high-quality off-the-rail dresses, which with slight alterations become personal to you. A good bridal shop is the best starting point. Get fittings as close to the wedding as possible A made-to-measure dress has to be ordered four to five months in advance, so you need to allow that time. Don’t try it on too much because you will probably lose weight before the wedding, so it’s best not to start fittings until you are the size you want to be. Listen to your heart A wedding dress maker or bridal specialist in a shop hones in on what the bride wants. Your sister, mum or aunty might have different ideas, but it’s your day and it’s about what you want.

Find out which designers do bridal really well A wedding dress is the one occasion most women get to experience made-to-measure dressmaking, and for that reason a ready-to-wear designer may not have the kind of expertise needed.

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and trousers. Either can be accessorised with a great bow-tie to make a groom stand out in a fun and relaxed way. Modern day suit Simple, elegant, preferably slim-fit two-piece suit and easily accessorised with a fun colourful tie to coordinate with the bridal party. Slim cut three-piece suit This is a fun alternative for a man who wants a touch of formality and yet look modern and fresh. Smart choice of cufflinks and tie are essential, while a pocket watch would add a retro/ vintage feel. Waistcoat and bowtie/tie Relaxed and informal look for a groom, but, with the unpredictable weather, really only suitable for a summer wedding. Probably best to buy a jacket to fall back on just in case. Or are you Mr Fashion Forward? If you’re a complete maverick and have your own very individual style you could go wild and have as much fun as the bride fashion-wise. Think colour, personality and individual accessories.

First question for the groom: formal or casual? It is essential to discuss with your bride whether or not you are having a more formal wedding or a more casual wedding? Because this is how you could loosely bundle up the options for the groom. Morning suit A traditional choice consisting of a tailcoat, waistcoat, and striped trousers. Morning suits should only be worn for noon or early- afternoon weddings. Tuxedo: Classic black tie evening wear, complete with satin-striped trousers and bow tie. Should be worn to evening weddings only. Avoid coloured dicky bows and cummerbunds. White Tie and tails The evening equivalent of the morning suit, white tie and tails is an extremely elegant choice for a formal evening wedding. Formal options include:

Are you even a suit and tie man? Over the last few years the combination of tighter budgets, more informal workwear and an increasing interest in menswear and fashion, has meant that grooms’ taste when choosing a wedding suit has preparing to get married, the formal look has been replaced by a more informal, laid back look. Casual Suit/Jacket A linen or cotton suit makes a casual and very comfortable wedding outfit for the summer groom; in winter a wool jacket changed significantly. For many grooms now

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Your wedding cake will feature in a lot of wedding photographs, so you should take some time to choose the perfect one. Traditionally, wedding cakes were three-tiered and covered with royal icing. Nowadays, you can order a wedding cake to your own design. Consider these factors : Size of the cake This depends on the number of guests that you are expecting. Remember to save some cake for guests who are unable to attend. Design Look through wedding magazines and on the internet for inspiration. If you do not find something that you like, design your own. Flavour Make sure it tastes good or you’ll have a load of cake left over – maybe make each tier a different flavour. Get the cake you want If you’re hiring a professional cakemaker, here’s a few questions to ask: Can I have a tasting? You want to make sure it tastes as good as it looks. Do you custom-make cakes? If you want something unique it’s best

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experience and creativity. Will you deliver my wedding cake and set it up? It’s important to establish with your cake maker what their service covers. Are there any additional charges? Do they want deposits for wedding cake stands, pillars or cake toppers? You can provide your own, but check with the baker if they need them in advance or if they can all just be set up at the venue. Make sure you have everything you discussed written down and confirmed.

prominent location, but not in the way. A spotlight to focus specially on the cake is a great way to enhance the wedding cake display. Never display your wedding cake close to the dance floor! The size of the table for the wedding cake should be according to the size of the cake. Cover it with a table cloth and use flowers, garlands, and sprays to decorate it. Dare to be different Instead of icing the cake, show off the sponge and decorate with berries and seasonal fruit. If you love chocolate, go for it. Have a quote from your favourite book, poem or movie iced onto your cake. Go for different shapes such as a hexagonal- or petal-shaped. Display a large table of cupcakes, stacked to look like one big cake, and invite guests to help themselves. How about a cheese cake? Rounds of cheese, decorated

Tips for wedding cake display Wedding cakes are usually displayed

from the start of the wedding reception. To ensure that the

to check if they make

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cake holds up for the duration, make sure that the filling used in the cake will not cause it to go bad. Display the cake in a

with grapes or flowers. A perfect savoury option for guests to munch on.

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Marquees to suit all weddings If you want to hire a marquee here are just some styles: A traditional canvas marquee

Traditional marquees are erected on poles, with guy ropes and tent pegs to keep them upright and secured. It is

the perfect choice for summer as guests can

socialise both inside and out. The sides can be removed in good weather. A tepee-style marquee Tepees are built on a tripod arrangement of poles, with interior guy ropes and exposed beams. They work well for seaside weddings or a casual summer barbeque. Small tepees can provide extra shelter if you are holding your drinks reception outdoors, or, for a complete outdoor wedding, hire Kata marquees which can be joined together to form a tent village. A becouin or indian tent The interior decor is exotic and opulent, with rich colours and beautiful Moroccan or Indian fabrics draped across the ceiling and the walls. Because the interior can be quite dark, they are usually best-suited for an evening wedding. Furniture in a Bedouin or Indian tent tends to be quite low, including cushions on the floor for guests to recline and low tables. A framed marquee A framed marquee is the most expensive choice and is best for large formal weddings, especially winter ones, when there is more chance of rain, or midsummer when you want to keep your guests cool. This

type of marquee is usually roomy enough to divide off various parts using extra walls, making a bar area, a dining area and a dance floor. The pros and cons of hiring a marquee for your wedding: PROS n You can hire a marquee based on the ideal number of guests you want to invite instead of having to limit your guest list to fit in with your venue. n You won’t be restricted by the existing decor or style of your wedding venue. You will have a blank canvas for your wedding theme and decorations. n Assuming you are using your own garden and don’t have to hire a garden or park, it should work out cheaper than reception venue hire. You should be able to save money on food and alcohol too as you won’t have to use the services of a catering company provided by a venue. n A marquee is flexible – for example you can take off the

sides if the weather is dry and sunny. You can also section off the dance floor. It’s not difficult to change the layout of a marquee, you can simply add screens or curtains. CONS n Your hire list could include tableware, a dance floor, tables and chairs, lighting, a power supply, a stage, a sound system and guest toilets. n Marquees aren’t soundproof so you may risk aggravating your neighbours. You will most likely have to finish the celebrations at a certain time out of respect for your neighbourhood. n You can have a marquee reception in summer or winter, but you will need extras such as air conditioning, heating or flooring to ensure your guests are comfortable. It is a seasonal venue and is best suited for summer. n Staff clear up the mess at a wedding venue, but if you have a marquee in the garden, it’s very likely that you will have to do at least some.

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Flower displays to make the most of your venue C hoosing the best flower arrangements for your style of wedding venue,

Peonies, roses, white irises and delicate spireas make for a wonderful garden style look and floral arches provide a statement piece that fits in with its surroundings. Take inspiratiion from the decor – the textures of the fabrics, the wall colours and choose a style that complements the vibe of the home. A CASTLE Be as spectacular as you like with long, low arrangements and tall impressive vases filled with a variety of textures and colours. Nothing is too overpowering. Garden roses, salvias, clematis and rose hips all fit in to these opulent surroundings. Adorn grand staircases with vast numbers of candles and huge symmetrical centrepieces with floral shades that either complement or completely contras with the walls.

is an important aspect of the overall impact you want to make. What suits a barn wedding might look out of place at a woodland wedding, while displays that would look sensational in a stately home would probably overpower and smaller more intimate venue. A CITY VENUE Elegant but casual is the way to go, but with a hint of drama thrown in. Minimalist flowers with amazing scents work well in a city environment. Sweet roses, hydrangeas and early amaryllis all work well with the city vibe. If you’re not looking for a particuarly feminine style, add in some heavy foliage and beef it up with plenty of greenery.

BARN WEDDINGS The flowers can be take on a relaxed rustic charm blending in with the wooden beams, thatched roof, double doors and big windows that bring the outside in. Opt for light and naturally styled flowers. Choose wild blooms – rough-rugged roses, peonies, saturated zinnias, spiky rudbeckias, echinacea – will all provide a rough and ready look to the occasion. A STATELY HOME Combine sophistication with a relaxed style. Go all out on the greenery in your displays.

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Get me to the church on time

If you want to make an entrance at your wedding, that guests will remember, there are plenty of options available. Here are just a few ideas, from the eco-friendly bicycle to a big red double decker bus.

HORSE AND CARRIAGE If you’ve dreamed of being a princess on your big day, then it has to be horse and carriage– make sure you hire one with a hood, just in case of bad weather.

BIKE Vintage bicycles make a fun prop for your wedding photos or you could actually ride one to the venue. TRACTOR If you’re a country-loving couple, why not ask the local farmer if you can borrow a tractor? However, you’ll need to allow extra time for arrival, going at tractor speed.

STAY THE NIGHT BEFORE

One of the quickest ways to arrive at your ceremony, if it is a civil service, is to stay at the wedding venue the night before. All-inclusive packages may include this option, leaving you and your bridesmaids to wake up slowly and get ready in your own time, without the added stress of traffic jams. Whatever form of transport you decide on, make sure it is comfortable for you and fits in with the style of the rest of the wedding. And don’t forget to make allowances for time, the weather and look out for planned roadworks or traffic hold-ups.

BUS A great wedding transportation idea.And after the service if you need to get to the reception venue, you can all travel together.

WALK The ultimate eco-friendly way to arrive at your ceremony. If you live close to the venue, or there’s a picturesque approach, why not make the most of it?

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are surrounded by coral reefs resulting in warm lagoons and beautiful coral beaches. Stroll along quiet nature trails that lead to spectacular views of the Mamanuca Islands. HARBOUR ISLAND, BAHAMAS A pink sand paradise, Harbour Island is a magnet for celebrities. Visit Pink Sand Beach and settle in among the three-mile stretch of sand and turquoise waters. MARRAKESH, MOROCCO You’ll feel like you wandered onto a movie set complete with snake charmers, belly dancers, horse-drawn carriage rides and an extensive maze of markets. Visit Yves Saint Laurent’s former home and gardens. PUNTA DEL ESTE, URUGUAY The once-sleepy fishing village is now the St. Tropez of South America. Take a trip to nearby José Ignacio for a laid-back, boho beach scene. Or hop on a daily boat tour to visit Isla de Lobos’s colony of sea lions. Whether you want to relax, party, see the sights or have a bit of an adventure, the world is your oyster – enjoy! FIJI The islands that make up Fiji

greenery make this a perfect romantic getaway. Watch the sunrise while wrapped in a blanket at the top of Haleakala Crater, or gaze at the sunset as you cruise along the Kihei coastline. Instant romance. ICELAND Iceland changes scenery every few minutes – you can go from volcanic, lunar-looking landscapes or grassy, green Middle Earth to shattering waterfalls and soaring geysers or massive Blue Lagoon hot springs. Head over to the picturesque Snaefellsjökull National Park to see some of nature’s most beautiful

creations, including two massive lava formations and a dreamy hidden waterfall. Then stop by the Blue Lagoon and dip in and out of the various pools and hot springs. ORKNEY, SCOTLAND If you just want peace and quiet in beautiful surroundings, then Orkney with its green-topped islands and sandstone cliffs will give you just that. Take a day trip to the Neolithic Ring of Brodgar, an ancient and eerie ring of standing stones, northeast of Stromness. With the weather moving in and the water lapping at the shore, it makes for a supernatural sight.

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